Given it’s the new year, and a time of change, and the fact that bad things are happening in the world right now, I thought I’d try to inject some positivity and motivation into the air.
January is crap, we all know that. The lack of light can cause your mind and body to do all kind of things – amazing in a way but not so much when you’re experiencing them.
So if you feel like you need a little push in getting yourself together for 2017, I have the post for you. It’s a “masterpost” of sorts, a guideline of what to do when you’re an adult, whether you’re in college or not.
This is not the be all and end all – there are inevitably some things that I would consider important that someone else wouldn’t and vice versa but I’ve tried to make it as universal as possible. They’ll be popped into various categories, Health, Academic, Professional, Financial, Social, and Self.
For these, I’ve looked at a few different sources. My way might not necessarily be the right way but it’s a guideline. Also certain things may not be financially feasible at the moment (I know certainly the doctor’s appointments aren’t). Anything else you want to add, add away!
- Make an appointment with your local counsellor (especially if you’re in college, they’re free). When you make that first connection, regardless of whether you need it right then or not, it makes going to see them when you do really need them easier.
- If you’re not feeling good, go see your GP. Tell someone you can trust who can hold you to going.
- Find a way of dealing with your thoughts whether it be through a journal, taking a mental health day, talking to someone you trust, etc. Find a way that works for you and stick to it.
- Balance your diet and exercise in a way that suits your body
- Drop in to the gym and see if there’s anyone you can consult for an hour on what is best suits your needs
- See the dentist. You may have teeth like Anne Hathaway, or not at all, but a good clean wouldn’t go astray
- Identify what you’re doing that’s not good for your body – smoking, excessive drinking, etc. Decide what it is you can cut out and what might require a bit more help. Work on it but understand that it’s not an overnight thing.
- Make a list of every little thing you have to do for class and rank them in order of priority
- Make sure you list any issues and add the relevant professor’s contact details beside them so that when you begin to tackle them, you can send off an email or two
- Read the syllabus and read it again – be sure you know what you’re meant to be learning
- Schedule library days – if not, library periods – so that time is fixed each day or week to go to the library so that you can cover that list
- Rewrite your notes if they’re not going into your head – again this comes down to the individual – but for some, rewriting helps it stay in your brain.
- Focus entirely at the work at hand but don’t shun next semester away totally. Keep an open mind as to what essays or projects you might pick for the next semester and keep a note of what might come in handy
- If you don’t know what you want to do, make a list of what you’re good at. This will help steer you into a career choice that’s right for you
- Draw up a CV. I’m not going to tell you how to do it as there are several different ways but as long as it’s clear and concise, and shows off your main skills and achievements, then you’re sorted
- Have a number of different cover letters for the different types of jobs you’d like to apply for such as retail, admin, research etc.
- Keep your CVs and cover letters up to date on job websites like Jobbio, Jobs.ie, and Indeed.com
- Keep your LinkedIn updated, it basically does the work for you. Your CV is on display 24/7, and potential employers can connect and contact you whilst you’re on your couch on your fourth burrito.
- Ask for references, they don’t have to be previous employers. Mentors, professors, society heads work too.
- Have a separate email for applying for jobs, that way you won’t miss anything in the barrage of your promotional emails and spam.
- Be patient.
- Check out the hidden jobs market by emailing recruiters
- Ask friends or acquaintances, sometimes they get bonuses for recommending people for jobs
- Go to the job fairs and career talks. Give them your CV. Ask for feedback on it.
- Nothing is not worth checking out.
- Identify the right savings account for you, whether it be bank, credit union, or post office account
- Make a list of all your sources of income, whether that be part-time work, parents, savings, grinds, anything. Keep a list of how much roughly you have to spend a month.
- Make a list of your unmovable expenses – things like phone bills, rent, Netflix, etc
- Budget your remaining dollah
- Give yourself a threshold to not fall below in your current account
- Think – don’t need to know right down to the cent but have a rough idea of that you need to have and what you can actually spend
- Make a list of what eats up most of your disposable income and cut down on what eats the least and work your way to the top.
- Drop into your bank and ask them to clarify what your current account entitles you to re lending, savings, etc. That’s what they’re there for
- Write down all the people you want or need to contact, again, prioritize.
- Separate them into people to call/message, people to meet, etc
- Spend time with loved ones living near you or contact/check on your family
- Take steps (no matter how small) to get to know those people you met in college or to join that society. If you’re worried about striking up a conversation with someone at an event, just remember, you already have a shared interest, and that’s half the battle.
- Don’t beat yourself up about not seeing people.
- Be honest with yourself. Don’t meet someone for sake of keeping up appearances. If you don’t click with them or if they bring you down, cut them out. Life is too short to spend with people who don’t enlighten your life as much as you enlighten theirs. Relationships, no matter what kind, are a two-way street after all.
- Reach out to someone whom you are acquainted with once a month and see what could happen. Some of the best friendships happen when you take that first step.
- Get off Tinder.
- Accept responsibility for your mistakes. It’ll hurt for a bit but you need to do it in order to grow the fuck up
- Think about what you value the most about yourself and how you can make those your defining characteristics
- Understand the relationship between your need for attention and your discomfort at being the centre of attention
- Think. It’s ok to be rash and impulsive sometimes but you don’t want to say yes to something purely for the short-term benefits.
- You’re the only person who is with you for your whole life. Learn to love yourself.